Your Brain on Gentleness

Olive Schreiner’s story of a dream tells the story of how a single person’s purpose fits into the narrative of a larger vision. 

            A woman walking out of a desert approaches the steep, high bank of a river where an old man meets her. She is seeking the land of freedom. He tells her it is before her but she sees nothing but a fast-flowing river and a steep and slippery bank. He encourages her to look beyond her initial vision and when she shades her eyes she can see—on the other shore—the land of freedom. She wonders how she will get to this land of trees, hills and sunshine: there is no bridge, the water is deep, the banks are steep and slippery, and no one has managed to cross the river before. She determines to go. But in a moment of hesitation, she blurts out: “For what do I go to this far land which no one has ever reached? Oh, I am alone! I am utterly alone!”

            And the old man says to her, “Silence! What do you hear?” She listens intently and says, “I hear the sound of feet, a thousand times ten thousand and thousands of thousands, and they beat this way!” He says, “They are the feet of those that shall follow you. Lead on! Make track to the water’s edge! Where you stand now, the ground will be beaten flat by ten thousand times ten thousand feet.” The old man explains how locusts cross a stream. First one descends to the water’s edge and is swept away. But as others quickly follow, their bodies pile up to build a bridge over which the rest can pass. And she says, “Over that bridge which shall be built with our bodies who will pass?” He says, “The entire human race.” At that, the woman grasps her staff and turns down that steep and slippery bank to the river. (Another Way, Lewis, Williams & Baker, 48)

When I think of gentleness, I think of what I tell my children to be when they are holding their new baby cousin, Lily.  I hear myself over and over saying, “Be gentle, honey.”  What I mean by that is to touch her in a way that is soft and slow; hold her securely but without too much tension; to be aware of the difference between their larger stronger body her small body. This is indeed what it means to be gentle in that situation, but the story about the woman and the old man that I told a moment ago gives us two new aspects of gentleness. We heard the woman in the story have this moment where she shifted from a protective stance to open hearted courage through applying t two of the three habits of gentleness which are listening and courage of heart.

The moment in the story when the old man invites the woman to listen, the story changes.  Before she listened, she was feeling alone and scared and disconnected. And what does she hear?  she hears the sound of thousands of feet coming her way. He says to her, “They are the feet of those that shall follow you. Lead on! The woman listened and recognized that she was not alone but that she was called to go before everyone to make a way for the whole human race to cross the river safely.  She found the courage of heart once she felt her mission had purpose. This moment in the story is a dramatic portrayal of what happens when we shift from a protective heart to embody gentleness.

With what is happening in our world today, our people, the people in our communities that we may or may not know yet, are crying out to find ways to shift their internal state of being away from mirroring the fear, anger, and anxiety that is present all around us. They want to walk through life with a gentleness of spirit that would inspire them to listen, forgive, & be courageous of heart. If people are hungry for spiritual practices that change their internal state of being and if our bodies are this amazing instrument that God gave us to tune to God’s frequency which is gentleness then we as the church must talk about how the mind & body are involved in our spiritual practices.  It helps us better understand how we are a new creation in Christ.

We are in a new sermon series titled, “Your brain on fruit” We are taking this series from Galatians 5:22 where Paul says that the result of following Christ is that we will bear fruit.  The fruit he is talking about is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Today, we are talking about your brain on gentleness.

Brian Spoon writes that when we practice the 3 habits of gentleness that we become capable of working through conflicts together and I would say that this is important right now for our church.  The three habits of gentleness are listening, forgiving, and having the courage of heart. So, what does gentleness do for our brains that would allow us to work through conflict together?  The hippocampus is a part of your brain that is near the Amygdala which is gives us the quick fight or flight response. But the hippocampus helps us store and create memories and when we are in a safer space we feel comfortable sharing our memories. Then we have the reward center of our brain that is activated when we feel accepted by a group.  When we feel safe and accepted, we are better able to access the parts of our brain that are creative, committed to working for the good of others, and flexible to adapt to changes. 

Today, we read about a character in our sacred text who practiced all three of these habits of gentleness.  But first let’s get a little background information

In 922 BCE, the kingdom of David had been split into two parts: the north was called Israel and the south was called Judah.  Two hundred years later, in 721 BCE the Assyrian army conquered the Northern Kingdom and exiled its leaders.  Now the southern Kingdom was having it’s own problems that the prophets spoke directly against, but they also experienced a revival of sorts. They began to reject other religious practices in favor of centralizing worship in Jerusalem.  But in 586 BCe, the Babylonians destroyed the temple in Jerusalem exiling the leaders to the northeast leaving only a remnant in Judah.  The people could not believe that God would allow the destruction of the temple and the loss of their homeland.  But the prophet Ezekiel came along and said you guys seem as lifeless as a pile of dry bones, but God will make you come alive!  Just 3 years later, the Persians conquered the Babylonians and the Jews were allowed to return home. It is during this period of the Persian rule that the story of Esther is situated. 

Esther begins with celebration and feasting.  The story goes that while the King of Persia is merry with wine, he asks Queen Vashti to come before he and his friends wearing a crown.  Now, an extra source says that that is all he asked her to wear!  So, the queen is commanded to parade naked but with a crown on in front of the king and his friends and she refuses.  This enrages the king and he declares that she is never to come into his presence again!  I’ll show her.  She might have rejoiced at her punishment!! Then when the king sobered up he remember Vashti, but his servants told him to round up a bunch of pretty girls and pick the one he likes best and that she can be his new queen. At this time in the story, Esther is living with her cousin Mordecai because her parents had died. Esther is one of the beautiful girls who comes before the king and our text reads that “the King loved Esther more than all the other women; of all the virgins she won his favor and devotion, so that he set the royal crown on her head and made her queen instead of Vashti.”  What Esther did not tell the king was that she is Jewish.  Now, this becomes an important detail a little while later.

 Now, there was a man named Haman who was promoted by the King and all of the people had to bow to him, but Mordecai Esther’s cousin would not bow to Haman. This made Haman very angry. Haman found out that Mordecai was a jew and plotted a revenge against him.  So, Haman went to the king saying there is this group of people that does not obey the King so the king should have them all killed.  The King said to Haman, “Do with them as you will.” When Mordecai found out what was happening, he reported the news to Esther. It is at this point in the story that Esther moves from a passive figure doing what she is told to do by the men in her life, to being an active character determining the destiny of the story. 

Mordecai says to Esther, “For if you keep silent at such a time as this, relief and deliverance will rise from the Jews from another quarter, but you and your father’s family will perish. Who knows? Perhaps you have come to royal dignity for just such a time as this.” Then Esther said to Mordecai, “Go, gather all the Jews to be found in Susa, and hold a fast on my behalf, and neither eat nor drink for three days, night or day, I and my maids will also fast as you do. After that I will go to the King, though it is against the law; and if I perish, I perish.”

After 3 days, Esther goes to the King, he pardons her for coming into his presence without being called and she saves her people. 

Esther saves her people by practicing the 3 habits of gentleness.

First, she Listens

Esther’s character is silent until chapter 4.  She is moved around without her consent. But she was listening.  She was listening to all that was going on around her. She was listening to what works with her new husband the King so that she could strategically plan something that would work to win his heart.  She listened to Mordecai’s counsel that now was the time to act! Her listening gave her the wisdom and courage to pray and strategically plan how to win the King’s heart so that he would grant her request. Her listening gave her the wisdom and courage she needed to approach the King even though she could have been killed for approaching him without being summoned.  


Esther is a character in a story that she did not choose.  She did not have a choice as to where she lived. Her parent’s died and so she went to live with her cousin Mordecai. She did not have a choice whether to be in the position that she found herself in.  So, I think we can safely imagine that she needed to practice the second habit of gentleness which is forgiveness. Maybe She needed to forgive her cousin Mordecai for putting her in this situation even though he really had no choice either.  Maybe she needed to forgive her parents for their early death that brought her to live with Mordecai.  Maybe she needed to forgive herself for not telling anyone that she was Jewish before they found themselves in a situation where her people might be persecuted.  Forgiveness is an element of healing that many of us do not want to address because it is uncomfortable. 

Scriptures says in Matthew 5:24 that if you are in an act of worship and you remember that you are at odds with your brother, to leave the altar and go and be reconciled with your brother.  I think the same holds true for when we have not forgiven ourselves. So, today, we will engage in a ritual of forgiveness.

Please hold your candle. This votive represents the best possible you. But you are not able to fully express your light because of the burden of that which you have not forgiven within and that which you have not forgiven in others. What is unforgiven, as well as your resentments, keep you from expressing your best self. Notice you are not alone, all those around you are living dimmed lives also.”

Please hold your piece of twine. This piece of twin represents the cords of the entanglements and attachments to the people, places, and situations that you have not forgiven. Imagine this cord wrapped around everyone in this room including yourself. We are not living in the freedom that Christ came to bring when we do not practice forgiveness.

Take a moment to think of those you have not forgiven and of resentments towards others that you are hanging onto.

I forgive you, I release you, I let go.’ “

Take a moment to think of how you might be bound up in a lack of forgiveness for yourself.

I forgive myself, I release myself, I let go of this burden.

Released from your burdens and entanglements, now please hold the candle, the vessel of your true self; contemplating where you can bring your light into the world and be an instrument of peace. When you feel ready to share your restored light, please light your candle. 

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To me, Listening and forgiveness are wrapped into the third habit which is having courage of heart. Maybe you can jump to being courageous, but I tend to think that the practices of listening and forgiveness come first.

Brian Spoon writes, “Courage comes from a root word that means heart. To have heart and to be wounded are two of the most fundamental aspects of being gentle.” (Neuroscience and the Fruit of the Spirit, 148)

This is exactly what Esther experienced. Although she did not play an active role at the beginning of her story, she was listening. Although no one had a choice in what brought her to the palace and into the arms of the king, she needed to forgive. Listening and forgiveness gave her the necessary courage to approach the King even though she could have been killed and then all her people after her.  After much prayer, she had the courage to take the risk even though death was a possibility.

Tomorrow, we have a conversation with Connection Christian Church.  In their story I hear the type of gentleness that practices listening, forgiveness, and courage. They wrote on their website, “Sometimes God calls you to do something bold. And sometimes, you summon the courage to say yes. That’s our story. After 111 years of dedication to sharing the love of God in Jesus Christ with the people of Odessa, God called us to do a new thing. We were led to sell our historic building and set out on a new adventure. We bought and remodeled a new building, changed our name from “First” to “Connection” to reflect our heart for Odessa, and committed to reach out with the radically inclusive gospel more broadly than ever before.

Connection Christian knows that part of their journey is that they have gone before those of us who are now like the woman in our first story at the water’s edge.  They have no intention to direct the churches like ours to follow the exact path they took in fact Rev. Dawn Weaks said that one church they met with decided to stay on their property. Another eventually closed. The invitation to us is the same invitation they give on their website. They invite us to have the courage of heart to live more freely, to love more boldly, and to reach more widely by saying “yes” to God wherever that path may lead!

Your Brain on Faithfulness

60% of Americans report that they have had an experience of the presence of God or a patterning of events in their lives that persuades them that they are a part of a cosmic design. (Fingerprints of God, Barbara Bradley Hagerty, 150) A man named Michael Persinger gained notoriety for his research that produced what he called the “God helmet.” He was researching what happens in the brain when people have a spiritual experience.  What he found was that the left hemisphere of the brain is in charge of language and gives us a sense of self.  The right hemisphere of the brain is more involved with feelings and sensations.  So, if you stimulate the left hemisphere of the brain you become aware of your “self” of you as an individual.  But if you stimulate the right hemisphere of the brain, you sense a presence other than yourself which he claimed is the prototype of the God experience.

80% of the people who put on the God helmet which stimulates the right side of the brain experienced feeling a sensed presence, as well as dizziness, vibrations, spinning and visions. Through his experiments, Persinger isolated the right temporal lobe of the brain as the sweet spot for spiritual experiences. What Michael Persinger’s work suggests is that anyone with a temporal lobe has a gateway to the divine and that when we have divine experiences that our brain is altered by the experience.

We are in a new sermon series titled, “Your brain on fruit” We are taking this series from Galatians 5:22 where Paul says that the result of following Christ is that we will bear fruit.  He lists the fruit of the spirit as love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Today, we are talking about your brain on faithfulness. Faithfulness can be defined as being sincerely religious, devout, full of faith, trustworthy & dependable.  While faithfulness can mean all of these things, I think there is a new word that people in our communities can better understand. 

Faithfulness feels like what we mean when we say, “Let’s take a moment to center ourselves.”  Being centered and being faithful say that we embody the qualities that would enable us to find our way back to core truths when life throws us off balance.

With what is happening in our world today, our people, the people in our communities that we may or may not know yet, are crying out to find ways to shift their internal state of being away from mirroring the fear, anger, and anxiety that is present all around us. They want to find a treasure that is worth centering their lives around so that when life catches them off balance, they have a way to align their whole self with this treasure. If people are hungry for spiritual practices that change their internal state of being and if our bodies are this amazing instrument that God gave us to tune to God’s frequency which is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness etc. then we as the church must talk about how the mind & body are involved in our spiritual practices. 

According to Brian Spoon our resident expert on how the fruit of the spirit profoundly affects our mind and body, faithfulness means that we experience a feeling of our whole self being aligned with God. He writes that when we are not in alignment then our mind and body feel distressed, but that when we are aligned then we are able to think more clearly because the part of our brain that that is involved in moral and ethical decision making agrees with the part of the brain that is involved with reasoning, planning, & executive function.

 As a minister, sometimes it is hard to get up in front of a group of people and say, “Jesus said we must live this way!” when we know that we are not fully aligned with God’s love for the world.  There is this sense of angst about needing to be mind, heart and body aligned with God before we tell others that this is how we should be as Christians. What I try to remember is that sermons are for me too.  Sometimes, I think I learn more from my own sermons than maybe you learn from them…and that is OK!  The beautiful thing is that sometimes I have an experience during the week that challenges what I am about to say in a sermon so that I either have a story to tell you that I can say, “Please don’t do what I did,” or “Here is how I navigated faithfulness this week.”

 This week I had one of these experiences. On Tuesday, we went to bed and as soon as I laid my head down on my pillow, I felt like a part of me was yelling at me.  Having studied Internal Family Systems Therapy, I understand how to step back and navigate all the parts that make up who I am.  This part of me was angry for anything and everything going back years.  Now, another part of me recognized that the yelling part of me was blowing things out of proportion and behaving irrationally.  But, as I have been asking you to do, I turned towards this part of me to listen because there was something that I needed to hear so that the yelling would grow quieter. 

What I learned is that there is a part of me that felt vulnerable leading through this discernment process.  As a new leader in our church, I discovered something about how we use our property that put us in the position of having to make life altering decisions.  The scary part is that this situation has a similar tone and feel to a past church experience. So, the angry part of me was mad at me for getting us into this situation. But here is the part I want you to hear.  I was able to calm the angry part of me down by acknowledging the fears of the angry part of me. I also was able to thank that part of me for being faithful to watch out for my well-being. Then, I was able to speak truth that aligned my body, mind and spirit with God’s love because I know that I am called to be with you during this great time of transition.  I have no doubt that God worked through your committee to bring me here.  I also recognize that God gave me the gifts and skills to lead and learn together.  The part of me that was yelling threw me off balance for a long night but grew quiet as I returned to center.  This is one picture of what it means to be faithful.

As a church worldwide, we know that Matthew 28:19-20 is what we center our vision and mission around. This is the great commission given by Jesus Christ for all people who would follow the path of Jesus.  It reads, “Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything that I have commanded you. And remember, I am with you always, to the end of the age.” 

The beauty of Jesus’ words is that they are a guiding light for each church to prayerfully decide their unique vision and mission statement. As Disciples of Christ, the unique vision of our denomination or what we imagine a world to look like because of us is to be a faithful growing church that demonstrates true community, deep Christian spirituality, and a passion for justice.  We center our vision statement in Micah 6:8. Our mission or how we are going to live into our vision of being a faithfully growing church is that we will be and share the Good News of Jesus Christ, witnessing, loving and serving to the ends of the earth.  We center our mission statement in Acts 1:8

Why is it important to define our unique vision and mission?  Simple.  It keeps us centered on what is important to us so that we don’t run around doing 100 things with minimal impact.  It keeps us faithful to what we feel called to do together so that when we get knocked off balance by pressures and change, we know the direction God has called us to go.

Anytime we can get together and pray for God’s vision for our church is an unbelievably hopeful experience.  Research shows that churches go through mission stagnation every decade or two, so we need opportunities to reconnect with our people and look at our changing community and say,

“Ok, God, how are we uniquely positioned to follow the great commission? How is Heights Christian church going to be a faithfully growing church in our denomination?  How will HCC love and serve to the ends of the earth?”  But it is always a risk to ask these questions because what if you actually feel called to do something!

Six women in our denomination got together in the late 1800s to pray about how the church could care for the “least of these.” These 6 women are described as “courageous innovators,” ahead of their time. Their lives exemplified “visionary leadership and sacrificial risk-taking” in the face of countless obstacles and “formidable odds.” “Why did they take on such a mission? The answer is they felt called to a task larger than themselves.”

This is the story of the National Benevolent Association which is a part of our denomination.  The story goes that this group of women looked around the streets of St. Louis and noticed how many children were living on the streets and through prayer, they discerned that they would care for the least of these by giving a home to the homeless, providing care for the sick, and comforting the distressed.”  Later, the NBA went through a time of great transition. Federal aid provided for children to remain at home, birth rates were in decline and the demand for adoption increased.  The buildings that the NBA had purchased for housing were no longer full.  Instead of closing the NBA, a new vision for ministry was birthed that remained faithful to God’s call to provide care for the least of these.  The community problems had changed so they reassessed the needs and realized that while housing was no longer necessary, treatment centers were needed to house the high demand for mental health professionals and retirement communities were in high demand to extend care to the elderly, so the NBA transitioned to meeting these needs. For 130 years, the National Benevolent Association has made it their mission to care, and that mission centered the association during times of great transition. As needs in our community’s change, that does not mean we are no longer necessary. What it means is that we have to pray and faithfully meet the needs of this new day.

According to Partners for Sacred Spaces, an organization created to help churches creatively explore how to navigate times of great transition, the majority of resources available to struggling congregations suggest that if your congregation has lost its sense of purpose and/or has slipped into spending more on the building than on outreach, you may have reason to close. As shocking as this is, their point is that the mission of the church must be what guides all of the decision making of the church and if a church doesn’t know its purpose for remaining in their building, then it is time for a great transition. A highly significant African American United Methodist Church in Philadelphia found itself in a time of great transition. The church was situated in a neighborhood that in the past decade went through profound demographic change.  For over 80 years, this church’s signature program was a soup kitchen, but with the change in the neighborhood, the church’s mission did not fit the needs of the more affluent neighbors.  The church recognized that their mission did not match the needs of the neighborhood so they made strategic changes in 2 ways: 1- they upgraded their kitchen to become a commercial kitchen that could be rented out to food entrepreneurs when the soup kitchen was not in operation.  2-they upgraded their facility to host not for profits who could no longer afford commercial real estate prices in their area.

This is just one of the ways that churches are being creative about how to remain faithful to their mission when in a time of great transition.

Faithfulness helps us navigate our way home in times of distress and faithfulness invites us to imagine a new way forward.

The Rt. Rev. Jennifer Baskerville-Burrows writes to us during the 8th month of the pandemic, “I often preach that the task of the spiritual life is to take a long, loving look at the real. Meaning that we are called to face life’s challenges with care, sensitivity, honesty, and as much wisdom as we can gather, trusting that on the other side of the challenge is new life.”

Your Brain on Goodness

Who hear has ever been called a Goody Two Shoes?  I have and it does not feel like a compliment, but this week I looked at the history of where this phrase originated from and I can confidently say that if you have been called a Goody Two Shoes, then you should take this as a compliment. 

One of the first places that this phrase appears was in the title of a children’s book published by John Newbery in London in 1765.  In the book, you meet Margery Meanwell and her brother Timothy.  These two children are penniless orphans who walk around wearing only rags. The book makes a point of the fact that Margery only has 1 shoe.  One day, Margery is given 2 shoes by a generous benefactor.  This gift sets off a series of events that encouraged Margery to work hard to become a school mistress.  Later, she falls in love and marries a man who owns land.  While Margery seems to have good fortune, her brother also returns from living overseas bringing with him a fortune that he gives to Margery as a nice dowry for her wedding.  Margery now has money and land, but this doesn’t change who she is. Having once lived in poverty, Margery views her wealth as something to be used for the good of those less fortunate and not for personal pleasure.

Being a goody two shoes is used to describe someone who has high moral standards, who has a clear understanding of right and wrong, and who acts for reconciliation in the world.  Goody two shoes are people who want the light to shine in areas of darkness so that truth might be revealed. All of us not just the goody two shoes among us have this internal sense of goodness as we are created in the image of a God whose very nature is good.

Our people, the people in our communities that we may or may not know yet, are crying out to find ways to shift their internal state of being away from mirroring the fear, anger, and anxiety that is present all around us. They want to show the goodness that is in their heart through their thoughts, words, and actions. If people are hungry for spiritual practices that change their internal state of being and if our bodies are this amazing instrument that God gave us to tune to God’s frequency which is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness etc. then we as the church must talk about how the mind & body are involved in our spiritual practices. 

We are in a new sermon series titled, “Your brain on fruit” Today we are talking about your brain on goodness. Through new discoveries in Neuroscience, Christians have another way to talk about what we mean when we say “In Christ, we are a new creation!” This is exciting to me because it confirms what practitioners and mystics have written about for 100s of years and it gives us a new and interesting way to talk about our faith.

In our sacred text, we find letters from highly esteemed mentors addressing people of faith throughout the region.  In the letter to the Thessalonians that we read from today, their mentor, Paul, writes about the idea that how we live our life today matters.  How we care for ourselves and each other each and everyday matters.  Let us hear the words again from 1 Thessalonians 5: 12-18,   “But we request of you, brothers and sisters, that you cultivate a grateful heart for the leaders among you.  Live in peace with one another. 14 How we live our life each day is important, so We urge you, to speak to the [k]unruly, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with everyone. 15 See that no one repays another with evil for evil, but always seek after that which is good for one another and for all people. 16 Rejoice always; 17 pray without ceasing; 18 in everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.

The definition of goodness that I am using today is that goodness is having a zeal for the truth. But what many of us think this means is not exactly what it means.  A passion for the truth begins with acknowledging our ignorance which is what Jesus called us to do when he said, consider the log in your own eye before you offer to take the speck out of your neighbor’s eye.  So, we have to do the internal work that humbly acknowledges that we don’t know everything and that we have a particular bias towards the knowledge that we do have. And we can understand our bias through looking at how our brains work.

Brian Spoon in his book Neuroscience and the fruit of the spirit writes, “If we believe something to be real, the thalamus will help make the perception become our reality.” (115) What he is saying is that if we trust a certain line of thinking, our brains are primed to see more of it and now we know that our media is filtering what we see to reinforce our bias. News sources focus solely on telling us how bad the people who don’t think like us are which creates more division and less opportunities for reconciliation.

Instead of just believing everything we read that fits in our narrow window of thinking…What goodness does is give us the ability to be curious instead of judgmental and creative instead of hopeless as we work for reconciliation between opposing groups. When we shift into a sense of curiosity and creativity, then the prefrontal cortex is engaged to help us problem solve and make plans to make the world a better place.

How does a person cultivate this sense of goodness that becomes like a North Star pointing them in the direction of the truth? How do people become curious and creative in their work for reconciliation?  Let’s look at 3 different stories that are examples of what our sacred text encourages us to do which is to take seriously how we live our lives everyday: we want to be a people who live in peace, who are patient with each other and who encourage each other to continue working for the good of all people.

In the year 2000, a man named Paul Ekman had the opportunity to spend a few minutes with the Dalai Lama.  Paul Ekman said, “He held my hands while we talked and I was filled with a sense of goodness and a unique total body sensation that I have no words to describe.”  Ekman talks about how most of his adult life he struggled with anger and rage, but that once the Dalai Lama touched his hands, he felt completely cured of his anger and rage. Recently, Paul interviewed eight others who have experienced similar transformations after meeting the Dalai Lama.  (Mind in the Balance, Allan Wallace)

The Dalai Lama credits his regular meditation practice to wiring his brain and flooding his body with a sense of goodness that can relieve the suffering of others through a single touch. He knows his daily practices matter! Reading his story inspired a curiosity in me about how other people accessed their inherent goodness. So let’s hear another story about a well-known, well-loved individual.

I think we might all say that Mr. Rogers was a goody two shoes!  During an interview, Fred’s wife Joanne was asked, “What’s it like being married to a saint?” After a short pause, she responded, “If you call him a saint, then what he does is somehow unattainable,” she explains. “He works hard at it. Its’s a practice.” Mr Rogers’ credits his daily practices of silence, swimming, and playing the piano. And it seems that these worked to help give him the clarity and courage to do ministry in a unique way.

When Fred was going to seminary to become a presbyterian minister, the TV was just being introduced into people’s homes. He began to see that having a TV in every home was shaping and escalating the racial tension in America quite similar to the way the internet shapes and escalates the ways that we are divided today. So, Fred decided that his ministry would be through the TV so that he could capture the hearts and minds of children across America.

I was reading an article this week that reminded me of an episode that Mr Rogers created 4 months after the assassination of Martin Luther King Jr.  He created an episode that would reach into every home in America that would address the crisis in America in a different way.  In this episode, Mr Rogers did not do his traditional opening where he comes into the home singing, changes his shoes and sweater and begins the episode.  Instead, he stayed out front of his home and took off his shoes so that he could put his feet in a baby pool full of cool water because he was so hot.  As he is enjoying the cool water on this hot day, his friend Officer Clemmons, a Black police officer with the voice of an angel arrives and Mr. Rogers invites Officer Clemmons to put his feet in the pool with him.  This was a radical act because one of the hot button issues at that time was the segregation of the public pools.  But here in Mr. Rogers neighborhood there is no problem. Mr Roger’s was working for the good of all people in his own peaceful and patient way.

Now, I want you to hear from someone in our own tribe. His words to us are like a fresh word coming from a mentor to our local church like how Paul was  writing to the Thessalonians.  Pastor Terrell McTyre is the head of New Church Ministry for the DOC and he sent out a newsletter a couple of weeks ago that I feel calls Heights Christian Church to embody a sense of goodness that would allow us to be curious and creative as we approach the task of discernment that is before us today. The practice that he engages to relate his goodness is through drawing inspiration from our sacred text.  Here is what he says to us today.

He invites us to consider the first 9 verses of Joshua chapter 1. In these verses God is talking to Joshua and saying to him that it is time to pack up and cross over the river so that the people can enter the promised land. This is the land that God had promised to Moses and it is now right in front of Joshua. God reminds Joshua 3x’s that he must be strong and courageous. God tells Joshua to be strong and courageous as he leads the people into this new land. God tells Joshua to be strong and courageous as he leads the people to continue following God’s ways in this new land.  God tells Joshua to be strong and courageous so that fear and discouragement does not hold him back from the new life God is calling him to move into.

Pastor Terrell writes directly to us about this text. He writes, “As you transition to the part of your future story where you must conquer and divide your new territory—your new spiritual battleground—you cannot be weak or afraid.” He encourages us..

Don’t choose the familiar over the uncharted.

Don’t let fear become interference (inner fear).

Don’t select a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven. 

Rev. Terrell McTyre

Friends, Just like in the time of Joshua, we have a river to cross and we may be tempted to hold onto all that is familiar, but let us use this discernment process to celebrate where we have been, to choose what to bring with us and what to let go of, and decide together where God is calling us to go so that we can walk boldly into the next chapter of HCC.

This will take strength and courage listen for God’s voice because there are many pressures that might seem easier to just decide to be who they want us to be. This will take strength and courage to continue encouraging each other along the way. This will take strength and courage to discern how HCC will work for the good of all people in our next chapter.

So let us declare with strength and courage the last verse of Joshua chapter 4 but insert our own time of transition so that we make it more personal to the mighty river that we are packing up to cross over…
This statement is printed on the back of your bulletin. Let’s read it together!

This discernment process is so that everybody on earth would recognize how strong God’s rescuing hand is and so that we would hold God in solemn reverence always.

Be Kind to Yourself

Kristin Neff a professor who first established self-compassion as a field of study, developed a questionnaire aimed at measuring self-compassion.  I am going to ask you a few of her questions that relate to the category of self-kindness and let’s see where you fall.  They are printed on the back of your bulletin so you can follow along.

For each statement, rate yourself on a scale from 1-5

1=not at all              3=somewhat                       5=strongly agree

I try to be understanding and patient toward those aspects of my personality I don’t like.

When I’m going through a very hard time I give myself the caring and tenderness I need.

When I feel inadequate in some way, I try to remind myself that feelings of inadequacy are share by most people.

When things are going badly for me, I see the difficulties as a part of life that everyone goes through.

When I’m feeling down I try to approach my feelings with curiosity and openness. 

When I fail at something important to me, I try to keep things in perspective.

How did you do?  How many of you got close to 35 points?  How many of you received closer to 7 points? 

Don’t worry, if you did not score very highly. This just makes you normal in our western culture. When Thupten Jinpa who has been the principal English translator to the Dalai Lama for nearly 30 years helped create a compassionate cultivation training at Stanford University, he realized that the usual Buddhist progression of kindness to self being the starting point for expanding kindness in wider and wider circles that eventually include all sentient beings was not a good way to start.  He saw that for his students, kindness to self was not a starting point but an obstacle to further development, so he changed the order of the training.  But what this says is that most of us have a deep problem with offering ourselves kindness.  Our internal dialogue speaks to us in tones that we would not want to repeat to someone we love.  Our internal state of being might even be one of self-hatred instead of kindness.  But even that can be a starting point because we hate that which we care about deeply.  So that part of us that still cares can be nurtured so that it shifts our internal state of being into a place of kindness.

Our people, the people in our communities that we may or may not know yet, are crying out to find ways to shift their internal state of being away from mirroring the fear, hate, and anxiety that is present all around us. They want to experience kindness in their relationship with themselves and others. If people are hungry for spiritual practices that change their internal state of being and if our bodies are this amazing instrument that God gave us to tune to God’s frequency which is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness etc. then we as the church must reimagine a way to engage the body in our spiritual practices. 

Jesus talked about it like this…he said I am the vine and you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, then you will bear much fruit. As Christians, Jesus invites us to experience being one with the The Divine and the natural result of this oneness is that we will bear fruit.  The fruit that we are talking about comes from Galatians 5:22 where Paul writes, “22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; ”

We are in a new sermon series titled, “Your brain on fruit.” Today, we are talking about your brain on kindness. It is so amazing that we live in a day and time where new discoveries in neuroscience help us understand what practitioners and Christian mystics have written about for 100s of year that our heart, mind, and body are profoundly affected when they are flooded with the fruit of the spirit. We become a new creation and that is what inspires me to share The Good News Jesus came to preach!

We just read Luke 6:36-37 and for most of us we immediately think that this scripture is talking about how we should treat others but let us read it again and focus the reading on ourselves.

“Be merciful to yourself, just as God is merciful to you.  Do not judge yourself, and you will not be judged; do not condemn yourself, and you will not be condemned. Forgive yourself, and you will be forgiven.”

Does that feel slightly wrong to change up the words? Does it feel harder to think about? Or does the change resonate with a part of you that longs to be trained in kindness?

I have often struggled to understand the difference between nice and kind.  As I read different articles this week, I put a few definitions together that help me appreciate the differences.  Nice is extending pleasantries that are in a way required by our society.  Nice is agreeing with people when you are supposed to in conversation.  Nice is how we should behave and is a surface level, rule-oriented posture. 

Kindness is the orientation of the heart towards yourself or another and is not just a matter of our behavior.  Kindness extends care to everyone unconditionally, but does not have the need to save everyone from themselves. 

Did you ever think about the idea that Kindness may not be nice.  Kindness may cause us to share a point of disagreement or call us to share painful truth. Kindness may break the rules of niceness leaving us better for the disruption.  

So how do we begin to be kind to ourselves or as the scripture asks us to be merciful, not judgmental and to forgive ourselves. Thupten Jinpa, In his book, “A Fearless Heart: How the Courage to Be Compassionate Can Transform Our Lives lays the foundation for a more compassionate world by teaching readers how to first cultivate kindness towards themselves.

  1. Take the position of an observer of your thoughts and reframe negative messages
  2. Set a daily intention in the morning (scripture, your personal intention, a piece of writing, poetry, etc)
  3. Self-Compassion practices
  4. Imagine yourself as a child…be kind and protective
  5. Change the narrative from humans are inherently selfish to humans are inherently kind and compassionate

These shifts take time but they are remarkable when you begin to notice the difference. 

So, now we have some homework this week to offer ourselves more kindness. Let’s begin to expand the circle a little wider, Jinpa’s last encouragement to us was to

Change the narrative from humans are inherently selfish to humans are inherently kind and compassionate but this is hard if you turn on the news at all.  So what we need to do to orient our brains in this direction is to look for stories that confirm this narrative.

In the Little Book of Lykke (Lu-Kah), Meik Wiking writes about a man named Clark.  He goes by the title “The Free Help Guy.”  Clark had a regular job but felt he wasn’t changing the world.  So he quit.  He posted a note on the internet that said, “If you need help, I’ll help.  For free.”  He had his first reply in a day.  A family wanted to open up their spare bedroom to an unhoused neighbor, so he helped them .  Another woman asked for help naming her baby.  He helped a man find  and reunite with his long lost father. Then, there was a young girl named Margaret who suffered from leukemia and needed a bone-marrow donor.  Clark organized a help mob dropping flyers around the area.  They found her a donor but sadly she died 10 months later.  (240-241)

Clark confirms that showing kindness to others reorients our hearts towards them giving us a sense of purpose and connection. It can bring us the warm fuzzies as well as great sorrow as with Margaret. Clark says, “My heart beats in a way that it never has. My life is vivid. Giving is happiness. The person who has been helped the most by the free help project is me.” Clark now works as a free-lance business consultant and is committed to helping people for life.(242)

Why would someone want to be the Free Help Guy?  Neurologically it is because of the neurotrasmitters that produce endorphins and give you what is called the Helpers High. We get a helper’s high when the reward center of our brains is active. This happens because of our mirror neurons that we talked about a few weeks ago.  When we help someone and see the joy they experience, our brain and body experience the joy they experience as if we were receiving the help. The brain cannot tell the difference if we are giving the help or receiving the help, so we get a reward too! Isn’t God so good to create us this way!

Kindness neurotransmitters decrease the effect of the stress hormone cortisol, produces oxytocin which is the feel-good hormone for bonding, and serotonin helps with regulating our mood. Research has shown that increased levels of oxytocin increase feelings of trust, safety, generosity and connectedness not just for others but with ourselves! (Neff, Self-Compassion, 48)

If Kindness does good things for us, the opposite of kindness also has a profound affect. The opposite of Kindness which Brian Spoon in his book the Neuroscience of the Fruit of the Spirit says is hate. Hate causes muscles to tense, breathing to become fast and cortisol to be dumped into the system to give us access to quick energy. Hate for self or others actually harms us more than the other person because we poison our bodies through a cascade of destructive neurochemicals. 

Here’s another more recent story to help us change our narrative from humans are inherently selfish to humans are inherently kind and compassionate.

Here is a story from January of this year 2021. During the pandemic two rival schools in Cincinnati started an acts of kindness competition to help the restaurant industry. In an article I read, it stated that as of January of this year 100,000 restaurants have closed across the country and about 800 have closed in Ohio. Some hope to reopen, others likely are gone for good.

The pandemic era acts of kindness competition between the university of cincinnatti and xavier began at Zip’s restaurant when a customer tipped $1,000 with a note that ended, “Go Xavier!”

Then, a Bearcat fan had to one-up their crosstown rival — leaving a $1,001 tip to employees at Keystone Bar and Grill.

Next, a person left a $1002 tip on their bill at a local restaurant called Goose and Elder.

The restaurant posted the bill to Facebook, showing the $1,002 tip with a note that read, “Hey Bearcats, ball is in your court.”

At the time of the article, the latest tip at Keystone now puts the ball back in the court of Bearcats fans.

Xavier fan continues random acts of kindness trend, tipping $1,002 at downtown restaurant (

Kindness is everywhere if we look for it and kindness is contagious. Observing or even reading stories of people being kind actually make you more kind through the mind body connection. Next time you see someone being kind, begin to check in with your heart, mind, and body. Notice if your eyes light up? Does your heart feel lifted? Does your mouth shape itself into a gentle smile?  All of these indicate a profound internal shift.

We have many opportunities in our weeks to observe kindness. A gentle smile. A verbal affirmation. A pause in conversation to ask how you are doing. I know for me I can quickly gloss over these and think, “Oh, they are just being nice.” But if I pause, I have the opportunity to acknowledge what this is really showing me…the orientation of the heart. We can’t see or hear the orientation of someone’s heart, but we can all feel it.  There is an energy, a quality that is not scientifically measurable but very real and present. 

Love is Patient

Have patience. Have patience. Don’t be in such a hurry!

How many of you in here like group projects?

When I was studying pre physical therapy at Baylor University, my final project my senior year was to work with a group to take a movement in a sport and break it down.  My group was assigned the long jump.  We had to think about and describe every movement and every muscle that was used to help the athlete perform this action.  Thankfully, we only had to describe 3 running motions!!! 

Well, my group felt inspired and had great energy to get this project started.  In most groups that I am in, I become the person who organizes the project into tasks, asks who wants what task, and then follows up with the person to make sure that we are making good progress.  I even offered to be the person that everyone would email all the parts to so that I could put it all together in a pretty and spell-checked way.  All that I asked was that my group did not email me too close to the due date.  I thought it was reasonable to ask for a good length of time so that I could complete the project and turn it in with time to spare. 

So, everyone turned in great work and in a timely fashion and we all lived happily ever after.  Nope.  Over the weeks that we had to complete our individual tasks, the group met less and less and they responded to my check ins less and less.  A few days before it was due, I became impatient because I had not received any of the assignment nor did I receive any communication.  The day the report is due, I finally receive all the pieces and then my computer crashes.  So, I had to run up to the computer lab to get help in retrieving my document and submitting it to the professor.  Not kidding. I submitted the document right before the time it was due. 

When I saw my group in class the next day, I could not even look them in the face.  I was frustrated because I was clear about our goal and they blew right past it without communicating.  I was angry at myself for taking on the role of putting the entire document together.  This experience still sits inside me to this day and I work really hard to shift my internal state of being when I approach collaborative projects.

Our people, the people in our communities that we may or may not know yet, are crying out to find ways to shift their internal state of being away from mirroring the fear, anger, and anxiety that is present all around us. They want to experience patience in their relationship with themselves and others. If people are hungry for spiritual practices that change and internal state of being and if our bodies are this amazing instrument that God gave us to tune to God’s frequency which is love, joy, peace, patience, etc. then we as the church must reimagine a way to engage the body in our spiritual practices. 

Jesus talked about it like this…he said I am the vine and you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, then you will bear much fruit. As Christians, Jesus calls us to experience being one with the The Divine and the natural result of this oneness is that we bear fruit.  The fruit that we are talking about comes from Galatians 5:22 where Paul writes, “22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; ”

We are in a new sermon series titled, “Your brain on fruit: Any Questions?” It is so amazing that we live in a day and time where new discoveries in neuroscience help us understand that our heart, mind, and body are profoundly affected when they are flooded with the fruit of the spirit. The transformation we experience when we embody the fruit of the spirit inspires me to share The Good News Jesus came to preach!

Our reading today came from Hebrews 6: 11-12 so let’s understand a little of the context of this letter.

The author of the book of Hebrews was writing to a group of Jewish Christians and gentile Christians who were experiencing persecution and suffering.  The letter suggests that some people during this time of suffering have fallen away from the faith so the author is hoping to persuade them that following Jesus is worth it because Jesus is the son of God.

So, let’s return to the text…The writer to this community says, “And we want each one of you to show the same diligence so as to realize the full assurance.”

In this part of the verse, I hear the writer talking about that there is a goal in mind and that he is encouraging the people to continue on this path so that they might reach the goal. The goal as I understand it in the book of Hebrews is to become partners with Christ in this world and their reward will be to be called the family of Jesus.  

 It’s hard to continue taking steps towards your goal and helpful when someone comes along to encourage you saying it’s all going to be worth it in the end. Part of the encouragement in this time of having a goal but waiting for the fulfillment of the goal is that we must be patient with ourselves and each other. You can think about this with our discernment process.  For some of you waiting 10 weeks to make a decision about our future is too long. You feel impatient to get the ball rolling. For others of you, you wish that we could postpone the decision making until Jesus comes back! You feel impatient towards those of us who would plan to take a vote in December. The reality is that we need a goal to aim towards and our elders have asked that we have an end date so that this process does not exhaust everyone. Now we must be patient with the process so that we can care for each other along the way.

Did you know that our brain needs us to set goals?  We need to set smart goals in order to function at our best. Goal setting or I like how one website said replace goal setting with hobby (something fun that you want to learn) helps rewire our brain so that we build up a sense of resiliency.  But Goal setting and anticipating progress, triggers the brain’s dopamine/reward system. Dopamine is what motivated you to get out of bed this morning and come to church.  You just thought it was the smell of coffee that motivated you to get up! Nope, it’s dopamine! So, the process of working towards a smart goal and feeling a sense of accomplishment along the way wires you to feel better about yourself and more optimistic which helps you be more resilient when you are facing challenges or adversity.

In setting a SMART goal, you begin with the goal.  For us that is to make a decision regarding our future. Then, you state what specific action you will take to meet this goal.  In our discernment process, we are going to go through a curriculum that addresses our situation from many different angles.  Next the progress must be measurable.  Well, we know that our study includes 8 sessions, 2 weeks for prayer, and then a vote.  We also know that we are going to be calling people, sending letters or text messages to make sure people know to be present for these 8 sessions.  Then, we think, “Is this Achievable?” What the A of smart goals is asking us is to think about who is going to hold us accountable and how will we persevere in the face of challenge.  I can tell you that our elders will hold us accountable, but that each of you must ask yourself what you need to persevere through the challenging times. For me it is trusting that God is with us and will guide us. The R of smart goals refers to how we can make this time relevant and not just feel like extra work.  Well, I have planned all kinds of activities so that you will not be board and that you might even feel energized at the end of each session.  Lastly SMART goals are time bound and ask us to celebrate.  We are time bound in that we will take our vote after we complete the process and we are ending in Advent so that we can celebrate the birth of Jesus and the birth of a new direction for our church!

The writer of Hebrews 6 continues, “And we want each one of you to show the same diligence so as to realize the full assurance of hope to the very end so that you may not become sluggish.””

What stood out to me as we read the rest of the passage is that Patience & hope are connected.

We just talked about how when we set goals we feel a sense of purpose and a sense of agency.  These are aspects of hope!  For the people in the book of Hebrews, their hope was in being a part of God’s family on the final day. This hope is what gave them purpose and what the author was trying to strengthen.  Maybe they just needed to break that goal down into smaller steps so that they could feel a sense of accomplishment, a rush of dopamine that would motivate them to take the next right step and keep them patient because their goal was long and the reward far off. This would also give them the strength to live in a time of adversity.

Paul says it like this in the letter to the Romans 8:25 “…  if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently.”

In your spiritual life, what do you hope for?  What are you patiently waiting for? What is a spiritual goal that you would like to direct your attention to over the next month? Year?

Well there is a prayer that you can pray everyday to help you tune into what you are needing and how you can sense God’s presence in your life.

I want to introduce you to the The Prayer of Examen. It is a prayer form developed by St. Ignatius of Loyola (1491–1556) as part of his work on “spiritual exercises.”  There are 5 points to this prayer.

Now, lets add the last piece to our verses, “And we want each one of you to show the same diligence so as to realize the full assurance of hope to the very end so that you may not become sluggish, but imitators of those who through faith and patience inherit the promises.”

Our verse concludes by asking us to be imitators and who best to imitate than God.

Do you ever stop to think about how patient God is with you and me?  I can go along and be impatient with others which starts to feel like I am better than all of you poor creatures.  But whenever I examine my day and think about all the times God was patient with me, I feel a sense of humility wash over me and I recognize my shortcomings, confess the ways in which I know I have fallen short, and acknowledge that I am still learning and that God’s love will never leave me.  If we can see how God is patient with us, then we can imitate God and be patient with others. When we forgive others their debts as we are forgiven by God, that is having patience with others. Because not matter how much we love one another, we will grow weary unless our love is patient.

For the past 18 months, I have been involved in another group project.  This project grew from my friend teaching me a meditation practice rooted in the Buddhist tradition that I translated into words accessible for Christians, Then the project grew to include teaching the practice to a larger group of 35 participants, 9 of which were Christian practitioners. Now we are writing an ebook about our experience.  Well, I had the brilliant idea to start a podcast that I could slow release when we know that our ebook will be published.  So, I outlined 8 episodes with bullet points for what we were going to talk about and I asked friends what platforms we should use. 

We had set up Tuesday morning for our first attempt at creating a podcast.  Well, tropical storm Nicolas that elevated to a category 1 hurricane threatened that plan and I had let my friend know what was happening.  I had also not received any information about what platforms to use and so Tuesday morning came and I was exhausted from being up a good portion of the night, my children were home, so my morning was all upside down.  I told my friend that if we pushed it to 1pm then I would be ready, but she could not meet at 1pm. She did not say it but she was clearly frustrated at me and let me know that she was not available at any of the times that I offered for the rest of the week.

So in order to feel helpful, I worked late into the night on pruning our manuscript, but after the day I had instead of feeling good about this progress, I was angry at myself for demanding that I do more when I was already exhausted.  So, I went to bed and slept poorly because I was mad at my friend for being mad at me and mad at myself.  Well, we finally found a time to try and record our first podcast.  We both logged on and my friend acted like she did not know what the point of our first session was.  I was already frustrated from Tuesday so when she said this to me, I felt like I was going to explode inside.  I told her that I was frustrated because I outlined it and wrote it in story form and she has had the material for a week to look at and ask questions. She recognize my frustration which helped me regain my higher functioning brain and I slowed down my hurry to get the podcast done so that I could meet her need to talk through the flow of the podcast until she was ready to begin.  Then, we stopped and started multiple times because of technical issues with our phones, ear buds, and internet connections.  It was a rough start but I felt that patience was the key to navigating the challenges of this week.

Group work is hard, my friends. Working with humans is hard. It requires patience with ourselves and with each other. 

Egyptian Christian scholar, lawyer and teacher Adel Bestavros summarizes Paul’s words about patience.  He calls them the 3 truths.  He writesPatience with others is Love,
Patience with self is Hope,

Patience with God is Faith.      

The Path of Peace

It has been said that Until there is peace between religions there can be no peace in the world. Thich Nhat Hahn in Living Buddha, Living Christ writes “People kill and are killed because they cling too tightly to their own beliefs and ideologies. When we believe that ours is the only faith that contains the truth, violence and suffering will surely be the result.” (2)  Rabbi Jonathan Sacks agrees.  In his book, Not in God’s Name: Confronting Religious Violence he asks, “How is it that people kill in the name of the God of life, wage war in the name of the God of peace, hate in the name of the God of love and practice cruelty in the name of the God of compassion? How if we are the image of God, do we so often harm the work of God, especially our fellow humans?”  (29)  Why do we do this he asks and then responds by reminding us that we are social creatures and that social creatures are angels to those on our side and demons to those on the other side.  We are wired to be this way because as we form social groups, we compete for resources. 

It’s hard to forget where I was on September 11.  Chad and I had been married 6 months and we were living on the other side of town while going to seminary at Baylor University.  We had taken 2 cars to school that morning because we had a full day of classes and work ahead.  So on the long drive to Baylor, I turned on the radio to listen to my favorite tunes.  But when I turned on the radio, I could not find a single station playing music.  What I heard from the voices coming through sounded like someone was telling me about an upcoming movie or the premise for a new book about to be released.  I called Chad in his car that was directly in front of me and asked him if he knew what was going on.  Then as we were driving, the second plane struck and I could not believe what I was hearing.  We drove faster so that we could get to the student center where there was a TV.  Arriving at school, every class had been cancelled and we were all glued to the TV watching over and over again the planes hit the buildings. 

My brain felt frozen and I had the inability to reflect on what my response to this tragic event should be as a Christian.  I also did not have access to the higher functions of my brain that would consider what my people might have done to cause this other group of people to act this way.  This does not excuse their behavior but it explains why I had no ability to think empathetically. Then I felt swept away in the emotions of the broadcasters and the people whose lives were devastated by this event.  This made it easy to follow the path of mirroring back to the people who caused this event anger and hatred and the desire for revenge. It made it easy to see them as wrong and us as right.  And it made it even easier to slip into the idea that our group has the right to tell your group how to live and by the way, hidden beneath all of this is that we feel that we have the right to your group’s natural resources.  Now, I am simplifying the low road we took to make a point.

Our brains have an easy pathway to connect to a view of scarcity, competition, and to make enemies of those not like us and all humans are created in God’s image with the innate ability to love and have compassion. And so our God challenges us to tap into the part of us that is love that embodies peace, but this takes practice. I would say that this is walking the path of peace.

Our people, the people in our communities that we may or may not know yet, are crying out to find ways to shift their internal state of being away from mirroring the fear, anger, and anxiety that is present all around us. They want to experience a sense of peace in their lives. If people are hungry for spiritual practices that change and internal state of being and if our bodies are this amazing instrument that God gave us to tune to God’s frequency of love, joy and peace, then we as the church must reimagine a way to engage the body in our spiritual practices. 

Jesus talked about it like this…he said I am the vine and you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, then you will bear much fruit. As Christians, Jesus calls us to experience being one with the The Divine and the natural result of this oneness is that we bear fruit.  The fruit that we are talking about comes from Galatians 5:22 where Paul writes, “22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; ”

We are privileged to live in a day and time where new discoveries in neuroscience help us understand that our heart, mind, and body are profoundly affected when they are flooded with the fruit of the spirit. The transformation we experience when we embody the fruit of the spirit inspires us to share The Good News Jesus came to preach. 

When I experienced an internal shift that called me into ministry and away from a career in physical therapy, our scripture for today was one of the verses that God gave to me. 

Let’s hear the words from Romans 10:12-15

10:12  For there is no difference between the Jew and the Greek: for the same Lord over all is rich unto all that call upon him.
10:13  For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.
10:14  How then shall they call on him in whom they have not believed? and how shall they believe in him of whom they have not heard? and how shall they hear without a preacher?
10:15  And how shall they preach, except they be sent? as it is written, How beautiful are the feet of them that preach the gospel of peace, and bring glad tidings of good things!

For some, This section of scripture is titled The Gospel of Peace.  If the good news that Jesus came to preach is about peace then I think we need to begin to understand the fullness of what it means to embody peace. 

First, I want to take us back to the scripture we studied last week.  In the book of Nehemiah, we enter the persion period where the people have experienced exile, some have come home to Jerusalem and Ezra and Nehemiah have lead the people to reconstruct the temple and the city.  Ezra’s primary mission was to create a new community that followed the first 5 books of the Hebrew bible.  .  Now, remember with me that the heart of the first 5 books of the bible is the decalogue which we call the 10 commandments or I love how the worship and wonder curriculum for children calls it the 10 best ways to live. 

What I want to draw your attention to is that the 10 best ways to live are about how to live life in such a way that is oriented to God.  It was to be a covenantal relationship with God where we find a sense of peace for our lives and for our community.  This covenant was not based on whether or not the people followed the 10 words but it was based on the first verse in Exodus 20, “I am the lord your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery; you shall have no other gods before me.”  In this verse, God makes it clear that it is because of God’s actions that saved the people from a life that was dehumanizing that this covenant is established.  That means that this covenant is unconditional.  So, the 10 commandments begin with God… the first 7 verses of chapter 20 in the book of Exodus have to do with our orientation towards loving God.  Jesus said it like this, “Love the lord your God with all your heart, mind, and spirit. 

Then, what comes next?  Once we move from a sense of peace in our relationship with God, God invites us to love ourselves, to find peace within ourselves…so that we can love and make peace with others.  In Exodus 20 verse 8, God says, “Remember the Sabbath Day and keep it holy.”  If we can’t make time for rest in our own lives, then most likely we are perpetuating a system of unrest in our larger community.  If we can’t find peace in our inner world, then most likely we have no idea how to act in ways that would promote peace in the community.  Jesus said it like this, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” 

From here, the very next commandment is to Honor your father and your mother.  Once we orient ourselves towards God and take care of ourselves, then the first place that we must work for peace is within the family structure.  Then, the rest of the decalogue invites us to promote the flourishing of all living beings in the larger community.  Rev. Yolanda Norton in her address during the General Assembly reminded us that the 10 commandments were not given as law that we should create punishments for. They were not created to allow us to create a checklist for what makes an insider and an outsider like Ezra and Nehemiah started using it when they were forming the community post exile.  These 10 words were given so that we might be a people at peace with God, with ourselves and with each other.  Jesus boiled all of the law and the prophets down to loving God, loving ourselves, loving our neighbor and even loving our enemy. In love, we rest in peace.  So, now you can see why in Romans Paul calls this the gospel of peace.

Today, we are focusing on how to become peace?  Peace has many definitions including harmony, safety, stillness and wholeness. It is a sense that we are complete. In God’s love, we are enough. As I was thinking about practices that embody peace, I reached out to my colleague Dr. Karen Hernandez who I met at Claremont School of Theology. Karen’s focus in her dissertation was how we cannot work for peace until we have dealt with our own woundedness.  Since graduating from CST, Karen began a new job with Religions for Peace International. I sent her a text asking her as my resident expert on peacemaking if she would share with us 1 or 2 essential elements to embodying peace. She responded with 2 essential ingredients.

She wrote to me and said, “It literally must start with each one of us…individually and then we are invited to create peace within the group of people that is closest to us.”

Dr. Karen Hernandez, Religions for Peace International

I thought this was very biblical because the 10 commandments follow the same patter: God, ourselves, our family and then the larger community. Right now, I will focus on the first part…the path of peace within and then in our adult bible study right after worship, we will do an activity that helps us better understand our call for peace within our inner circle of influence.

 So Let’s get two examples of what it looks like to embody peace:

A way to become peace is to experience the gift of the present moment more often. If you were to give a % to how much of the day you spending worrying or thinking about the future, what % would you give? How much of the day do you ruminate or think about the past? Worrying about the future or ruminating on the past only causes anxiety and robs you of your peace.

Thich Naht Hahn in his book Together We Are One, writes about how mindfulness saved him when he went into exile in his early 40’s.  He was in Washington DC when he was informed that 4 countries including the US were asked by Saigon to not honor his passport because he was saying things that were not helpful in the war against communism.  Some of his friends in DC begged him to stay in the US but to go into hiding. That meant that he was risking deportation and jail.  He did not like these options so he applied and was granted political asylum in France.  They gave him a travel document called an apatride meaning that you don’t belong to any country.  He had no country…no real home. He wondered how many people feel like him on a regular basis? He writes, “Even though many of us have a nationality, a citizentship and a passport, we are still looking for where we belong.” (9) 

He said that it was because he did not have a home that he found his true home. His true home is the joy of being with the breath and the body in this present moment.  He says that the embodiment of his practice is captured in these words, “I have arrived. I am home.”  He also has a beautiful walking meditation for Christians where you imagine with each step that you take that you have fully arrived in the Kingdom of God.  You do not take the next step until you truly feel you have arrived. Whether it is a homecoming or arriving in the Kingdom of God, when we relax our bodies and our minds we are able to see that this present moment is full of beauty and wonder.

Brian Spoon adds that meditation on God’s word helps prime our brain to respond in certain ways.  He writes, “When we dedicate our minds and our lives to meditating on God’s word, we internalize and strengthen our neural pathways that remind us of God’s presence in the world…We may not be consciously aware of all the ways that we interpret and remember our reality, but the more we infuse every moment, thought, and action towards God’s presence and God’s word, the more that reality will live within us.” (72)    

Brian Spoon, Neuroscience and the Fruit of the Spirit

Remember, whatever neural connections we continually make will wire together and prime us for seeing or doing the same thing whenever a cue triggers that pathway.  Our brain is always looking for the easiest route, the route that we are conditioned to take.  So, if we are constantly meditating on God’s word then we will be primed to follow the pathway that tells us that God is at work in our lives and then we will have an easier time seeing that God is at work in other people’s lives as well.  We have the power to train the mind, but it is like exercise…we have to do it over and over again for the connections to be strengthened. 

There is a meditation that Rev. Darnell Fennell teaches that combines the idea of taking a U turn, coming to our true home, and meditating on God’s word.  So as we prepare to come to the communion table, I invite you to settle in, attend to your does your body feel right now?  Can you do something to make it feel 10% more at ease? Bringing our attention to each part of our body and inviting our many parts to soften is a way to make peace with our bodies. What is your energetic level?  What is the dominant emotion that is present right now?  Now, shift your attention to your breath.  Feel the inhale and the exhale.  This is the breath that God gave at creation.  This is the breath of life.  

Now here the word of the Lord:

Be Still and Know that I am God.

Be still and know that I am.

Be still and Know.

Be Still.


The Joy of the Lord is our Strength.

: If you are happy and you know it clapp your hands.  If you are happy and you know it stomp your feet. 

Ok, now that we have our bodies warmed up..I want to introduce you to laughter yoga. 

Did anyone know that there is something called Laugher yoga? 

Laughter yoga involves teaching certain chants, meditations, breathing technique to help you have a laughing session without anything funny that inspires it!  Laughing yoga was discovered by Dr. Madan Kataria, a family physician in Mumbai, India, in 1995. Dr. Kataria claims that laughing yoga will help lift your mood, reduce stress, strengthen your immune system, increase energy levels, improve your quality of life, and help you better manage hardship. Along with this, laughter yoga is believed to help you better manage stress through controlled breathing. This allows for greater uptake of oxygen, which activates the parasympathetic nervous system, your body’s natural relaxation system.

Let’s try one of the beginning exercises that helps you release any judgement and just feel the freedom to laugh!

Change it up:  Ho Ho, Ha, Ha, Ha  clap 2 for Ho Ho and then clap 3 for Ha, Ha, Ha.

Now, join me in a 1 min laughter session!

Isn’t it true that when you see someone laughing that it is hard not to smile or even start laughing with them. When you see someone eat something like a lemon, you pucker up and prepare yourself like you are eating the lemon. If you are watching a movie and one of the characters that you have grown to love cries, you tear up…or if you are like my dad, you stop the movie because you want to know who else is weeping with you!  And if you are out and about and someone smiles at you, you smile back.

Not only do we mirror each other’s facial expressions, but when we mirror what they are doing, we actually feel a shift inside of us. 

So, not only do you smile back, you feel happy and lighter inside. If someone approaches you with a furrowed brow, you get your eyes all squinted up and furrow your brow as well and you might feel protective or on the defense even before they begin to talk to you! What’s interesting is that the brain does not know if you are actually experiencing what is happening or if you are the observer.  In an article titled, “The Neuroscience of Smiling and Laughter,” Pieter Rossouw, writes, “our mirror neurons are responsible for our ability to mimic another person’s facial expressions (and this) also triggers an internal state of being.”

Our people, the people in our communities that we may or may not know yet, are crying out to find ways to shift their internal state of being away from mirroring the fear, anger, and anxiety that is present all around us. They want to sense more love, joy and peace in their lives. People want to be their best self and unbecome anything that is holding them back from living the life God created them to live. If people are hungry for spiritual practices that change their external and internal state of being and if our bodies are this amazing instrument that God gave us to tune to God’s frequency of love, joy and peace, then we as the church must reimagine a way to engage the body in our spiritual practices. 

Jesus talked about it like this…he said I am the vine and you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, then you will bear much fruit. As Christians, Jesus calls us to experience being one with the The Divine and the natural result of this oneness is that we bear fruit.  The fruit that we are talking about comes from Galatians 5:22 where Paul writes, “22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.”

We are privileged to live in a day and time where new discoveries in neuroscience help us understand that our heart, mind, and body are profoundly affected when they are flooded with feelings of love, joy, peace. Now that we have this intellectual knowledge, we are invited to explore what it feels like in our bodies to experience the fruit.  We need to be able to describe what having a sense of joy or peace feels like in an embodied way so that we can recommend to our friends that what they are looking for….we have found.  This is an essential piece to the Good News Jesus came to preach.

The reading from our Sacred Text today was from the book of Nehemiah. (Nehemiah 8: 1-3, 5-6, 9-10)  Not something you read from everyday I am sure!  So let’s get a little history lesson.  First Ezra and Nehemiah used to be one book but was separated into two books.  One date to hold in mind is 586 BC when the Babylonians destroyed the Temple, destroyed the city of Jerusalem, and exiled a number of Judah’s ruling elite.  Some were exiled in Babylon and joined the prophet Ezekiel there and others in Egypt who joined the prophet Jeremiah there.  So almost 50 years have gone by and the people in exile have settled into their new homes, some have intermarried, and they have wrestled with questions like how do we worship God without the temple and how do we sing the lord’s song in a foreign land.  They have suffered much and sought meaning in their suffering.

The books of Ezra and Nehemiah begin what is called the Persian period. It is now 538 BC and God’s people are coming back to Jerusalem after being in exile. Not everyone is excited to come back!  As I said, many people have found a new home and do not want to leave.  But in the people who return, There is a new identity emerging that is no longer connected to the land or to a certain kingdom. This new identity becomes a combination of religious, social, historical and cultural markers.  So instead of worrying about invading armies or being slaves to other people groups, now the chief concern is with ethnic pollution.  What I mean by that is that Ezra and Nehemiah really focus on who is in and who is out.  Questions like were you born in Jerusalem and who are you married to become highly important.

These two men have very different jobs when they return. Ezra has come back to Jerusalem from Babylon with the mission to bring religious reform.  Nehemiah came from Babylon to be the governor. Having both religious and political power between the two of them, they ignited a passion to rebuild the city, rebuild the temple, and to return the people to living according to the first 5 books of the Hebrew bible which is the Torah.  The people would once again be the people of the book.  As the people are coming home to Jerusalem, it takes many years to reestablish the temple, the community and the city.  In Ezra and Nehemiah, we see this happening in three stages: The first stage is the rebuilding of the temple. In the second stage, it is Ezra’s mission to form the community according to the Torah. The third stage is Nehemiah’s mission to rebuild Jerusalem.  At the point of our reading today, all of this has happened and now they are in a time of celebration of all that has happened during the reconstruction. 

I love how Nehemiah sets the scene.  He describes men and women gathered eagerly awaiting  the reading of the word of God.  They seem so eager and so hungry to be fed spiritually.  Then Ezra reads from the Torah and they have interpreters available so that everyone present understands what the reading means.  The Scripture concludes with Ezra and Nehemiah both telling the people to celebrate! It reads, “Then Nehemiah the governor, Ezra the priest and teacher of the Law, and the Levites who were instructing the people said to them all, “This day is holy to the LORD your God. Do not mourn or weep.” For all the people had been weeping as they listened to the words of the Law. 10Nehemiah said, “Go and enjoy choice food and sweet drinks, and send some to those who have nothing prepared. This day is holy to our LORD. Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength.”

The people were eagerly awaiting, then moved to tears at the reading of the Word of God.  Ezra and Nehemiah want to mark this joyous occasion with celebration: food and sweet drink and giving generously to those who would not have such extravagant items. 

And then Nehemiah reminds the people, “The Joy of the Lord is our strength.”  This sounds like a shift from internal states of fear, worry, and struggle to a sense of love, joy and peace.  This sounds like embodiment to me.

  I can only imagine that through the people’s suffering in exile, they spent many nights trying to sense God’s presence and their purpose without the land and the Temple.  They looked into each other’s eyes for a sense of hope. Then the long return home building and reconstructing the Temple…that all of this labor united the group in their continual saying Yes to what God was calling them to do next. They saw God in each other and mirrored that back. And now their joy will be multiplied because it is a sense of joy that is contagious.  This is how our mirror neurons help with our sense of joy!

We might feel a sense of connection to God’s people in the book of Nehemiah.  For many of us, this pandemic has felt like an exile of sorts.  We have been stuck at home, away from our friends and family, isolated, not worshiping in our sacred spaces, and even our bodies have grown weary and tired of the fear, stress and dis-ease. I know for me…I am completely frustrated with how covid has ruled my life for the past 18 months.  I am ready …eagerly awaiting…hungry…to hear a word from God so that I might celebrate what it means to be alive in God’s safe and wonderful world!!

In one of my yoga classes at the University of Houston, I used a poem that to me is an expression of the joy that we can find as we live in our human bodies, interact with nature, and experience this state of flow where who we are is finite and yet there is a sense of expansion from this finite body as you experience the interconnection of all living things.  The poem is Walt Whitman’s song of myself.  Here are a few lines from the poem.  I invite you to close your eyes, breathe in the words and feel the joy of being alive spread through your heart, mind and body.

I celebrate myself, and sing myself,

And what I assume you shall assume,

For every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you.

My tongue, every atom of my blood, form’d from this soil, this air,

Born here of parents born here from parents the same, and their parents the same,

I, now thirty-seven years old in perfect health begin,

Hoping to cease not till death.

The smoke of my own breath,

My respiration and inspiration, the beating of my heart, the passing of blood and air through my lungs,

The sniff of green leaves and dry leaves, and of the shore and dark-color’d sea-rocks, and of hay in the barn,

The sound of the belch’d words of my voice loos’d to the eddies of the wind,

A few light kisses, a few embraces, a reaching around of arms,

The play of shine and shade on the trees as the supple boughs wag,

The delight alone or in the rush of the streets, or along the fields and hill-sides,

The feeling of health, the full-noon trill, the song of me rising from bed and meeting the sun.

Stop this day and night with me and you shall possess the origin of all poems,

You shall possess the good of the earth and sun, (there are millions of suns left,)

You shall no longer take things at second or third hand, nor look through the eyes of the dead, nor feed on the spectres in books,

You shall not look through my eyes either, nor take things from me,

You shall listen to all sides and filter them from your self.

I am the poet of the Body and I am the poet of the Soul,

The pleasures of heaven are with me and the pains of hell are with me,

The first I graft and increase upon myself, the latter I translate into a new tongue.

I am the poet of the woman the same as the man,

And I say it is as great to be a woman as to be a man,

And I say there is nothing greater than the mother of men.

I am large, I contain multitudes.)

Let us shout for joy with a hearty AMEN!  Brian Spoon in Neuroscience and the Fruit of the Spirit writes, “Joy is the fruit of the spirit, but it is also the disposition that we have to any fruit of the Spirit working in us. We can find joy in kindness. We can find joy in peace. We can find joy in gentleness. When we stop judging ourselves and others by their output and relish doing our best, then we can rest in joy. We can rest in the joy of God’s love working through us, of God making a home in us. Christ helps remind us of this profound truth, “If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love. I have said these things to you so that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be complete.” John 15: 10-11 (61)

And the Greatest of these is Love

Scripture says that Our bodies are beautifully and wonderfully made. The Human body is composed of tens of trillions of cells and each one of our cells contains our DNA. Our DNA houses more than 3 billion base pairs of encoded information.  If that’s not cool enough, the human brain has 100 billion neurons which have the ability to make an infinite number of connections.  Remember last week, we learned 2 things about the brain. First, through neuroplasticity we have the ability to change the brain from the time we are born until the time we breathe our last breath.  Even as we get older, new connections can be made.  Second, as the brain makes connections, the more that pathway is travelled, the more it wires together.  So, when we develop a practice that helps us embody a sense of love, it might feel really difficult at first, but then over time, the response to the practice becomes more automatic.

Our bodies are the instruments that we tune over the course of a lifetime. Now, most processes go on without our even noticing…our body breathes, works to regulate our temperature, digests our food, and is watchful for any stimuli that might be threatening.

Bryan Spoon in his book Neuroscience and the Fruit of the spirit writes, “Our body is the greatest resource we have. It is the only real resource we will ever know or by which we will ever know anything else.”  Pg 19 

What he means is that everything that happens to us in this life is experienced and interpreted by our bodies. For some people it is really hard to know what we are feeling in any given moment, but the body tells us how it is feeling so if we pay attention, we are being given clues about our experience.  In paying attention to the instrument of our bodies we have the ability to recognize when we are experiencing the fruit of the spirit or when we are needing something because we are not experiencing the fruit of the spirit. Paying attention also helps us become less reactive when we notice patterns in our lives that are more harmful.  For example, I notice with my son that we have developed a habit..or a pattern of the way we relate to each other.  When I need him to do something, I ask him nicely to do something like put away his clothes. He answers back that yes he will put away his clothes in 5 min after he finishes a video that he is watching on his phone.  I say Great!  And I go and set the timer.  After 4 min, I remind him that he has 1 minute to put whatever he is doing away and follow through with the task that I need for him to do.  He says great…just give me 1 min.  After 1 min is up, I gently remind him that he needs to get to work. He says Ok, let me go to the bathroom which is another stalling technique. I say that is fine but you need to bring me your phone first. He throws a fit and I go over to take his phone away. He wrestles with me and I get really angry. Yelling happens and then he looks at me and says, “What is wrong with you, mom?!”  This pattern repeats all too often.  And now I can feel how nicely I ask him the first 3 times and how by the 4th time, my blood is starting to boil.

This type of paying attention gives me the power to observe how I go from nice to nasty in a matter of 10 min and it gives me power to change things.  In this example, I recognize that I do not want to get to the yelling stage so most of the time, peyton does not get his phone or whatever it is he wants to do until he has completed his chores.  This way we avoid a meltdown for both of us.  But if I find myself in this moment again, I can observe that WOW, this is happening again to me…I can name how I am feeling angry, unloved, disrespected which is activating my Sympathetic Nervous System. And in those brief minutes I can go sit by him and breathe to engage the parasympathetic nervous system which helps me calm down, experience bonding in community, and find rest.

Dr. Alane Daugherty in her book from Mindfulness to Heartfulness writes, “Our human body is the instrument through which we experience life, and the instrument through which transformations are continually taking place.”[1]

Last week, I shared that our people are crying out to find ways to be their best self and unbecome anything that is holding them back from living the life God created them to live…If this is true and if our bodies are the instruments God gave us to experience this life, then we must reimagine a way to engage the body in our spiritual practices.  Jesus talked about it like this…he said I am the vine and you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, then you will bear much fruit. As Christians, we are called to experience being one with the The Divine and the natural result of this oneness is that we bear fruit.  The fruit that we are talking about comes from Galations 5:22 where paul writes, “22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.”

We are privileged to live in a day and time where new discoveries in neuroscience help us understand that our heart, mind, and body are profoundly affected when they are flooded with feelings of love, joy, peace. Now that we have this intellectual knowledge, we are invited to explore what it feels like in our bodies to experience the fruit.  We need to be able to describe what having a sense of joy or peace feels like in an embodied way so that we can recommend to our friends that what they are looking for….we have found.  This is an essential piece to the Good News Jesus came to preach.

In our scripture for today, Matthew 22:37-40  orients us to the greatest of the fruit of the spirit.  The question was asked, “Teacher which commandment in the law is the greatest. Jesus responds, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the first commandment. And a second is like it You shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.”

When Jesus says, Love the lord with all your heart, soul and mind, what he is saying is love God with your very suchness…your very being. What is fascinating is that Jesus starts with the heart or the seatbed of the emotions or some would say it is the place of your will.  This is interesting because we now know that your heart is more powerful than your brain.

It used to be thought that the heart was only a pump that delivers blood to different parts of the body, but now we have new research in the field of Neurocardiology that tells us that the heart has a powerful impact on our own bodies and on other people.  Andrea S. Cohen writes that the heart has approximately 40,000 neural cells—the kind that we used to think existed only in the brain. That means that 60-65% of the heart’s cells are neural cells. Research tells us that the heart sends many more messages to the brain than the brain sends to the heart![2]

When we experience feelings of love, our heart rhythms shift and direct new electromagnetic impulses to our brain. And then our brain sends chemical and hormonal outputs all over the body. So our heart impacts our body’s well-being!

What is even more cool is that the heart’s electromagnetic field is several thousand times more powerful than the brain’s electromagnetic field, and it expands at least six to eight feet beyond our body. So when we shift our own physiology to embody love and compassion, this change in ourselves affects all those around us.

So in a moment, I am going to ask that you extend loving kindness to our new elder as she is being installed today. But before we do that let us get our heart, mind and body oriented to a sense of love so that our new elder will sense a profound impact as you extend your love to her.

I will guide us through a meditation on love.  Our minds are amazing tools.  One thing that the mind cannot distinguish is if something is happening right now or if you are reliving a memory or if you are watching a movie. So, we can use this to place ourselves in moments that are beautiful, loving, kind and gentle so that our bodies sense these good feelings as if they are happening right now.

Get into a comfortable seated position.  If your legs are cross, gently uncross them and feel the feet on the floor.  Soften your shoulders and release your tongue down from the roof of your mouth.  Soften all the muscles around your eyes and slowly close them.  Now, bring to mind a time when you felt loved.  Savor the images that come to mind, the sounds, the people, the tastes, smells, if there is a sense of touch. Relive this experience.  Now, imagine that this love you are feeling is a color.  See this color flowing between you and the experience that you are imagining.  Now with every breath, see your body fill with this color. On your next inhale, breathe in your color of love and imagine that this color fills you up from your feet to your hips.  Now, soften in this sensation of love.  Inhale the color of love and imagine that it fills your body from your hips to your shoulders.  Now, rest in love.  Inhale the color of love and imagine that it fills your body from your shoulders to the very tip top of your head. Now, be in love.  Take the next few breaths to feel your entire body filled with love. Notice the sensations. Enjoy the experience. 

[1] Dr. Alane Daugherty, From Mindfulness to Heartfulness: A Journey of transformation through the Science of embodiment (Bloomington: Balboa Press, 2014), 73.

[2] Andrea S. Cohen, Practicing the Art of Compassionate Listening (2017), 34-35.

One July when I was middle school age and my sister was around the age of 9, we decided to bake a cake for my parents anniversary. We did not think ahead of time and plan this out well. Nope. We decided to start baking the cake at 10pm that evening. My parents had gone to bed and we snuck downstairs to start making this secret cake. Well, the cake turned out fine, but the kitchen looked quite a mess with flour and ingredients everywhere. But by this time it was almost midnight. So, instead of waiting for the cake to cool to add the icing, we decided that we just needed to get the whole thing finished. We started making the icing but could not get it right. It was super runny. Then too thick. Then too runny. We were undeterred so we decided to add the now too runny icing onto the warm cake and then quickly put it all in the freezer. At some point in the shenanigans of the evening, my mom crept downstairs to see what all the giggling was about. We told her to go back to bed because we were planning a secret surprise for their anniversary. I’m sure that she took one look at the kitchen and thought, “Oh, I wish you hadn’t!!”

Doing things in secret for other people can be really fun. There is something exhillerating about it. But we also know that our shadow sides come out in secret. Disorders like anorexia and bulimia thrive in secret. Some Addictions are taken up in secret and very powerful to break when we are alone and left to our own devices.  I think Jesus knew this and that is what our scripture for today is talking about.  How we think, speak and act in secret has a profound affect either positively or negatively on who we are. 

The People outside our walls are telling us that they want transformation and we know that it is in our practices that are sometimes done alone and sometimes done communally that truly have the power to transform our daily lives.  I have said this before but research suggests that people no longer show up at church because they want to know what to believe or how to behave or even our strongest one which was to belong.  Now, they want to be and become.  One quote I posted on FB this week offered another insight into being and becoming.  It stated that maybe it is about ‘Un becoming” everything that is not really who God created us to be.  Becoming or unbecoming both signal some kind of transformation that doesn’t just happen magically.  The joy of being a part of a religious tradition is that we have ways to help us experience a change of heart, mind, and body. One of the ways that we talk about that In our tradition is that we are called to experience being so connected to the source of life, The Divine that we bear fruit. 

The fruit that we are talking about comes from Galations 5:22 where paul writes, “22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.”

But what we have forgotten is that We need to know what it feels like in our bodies to experience the fruit.  We need to be able to describe what having a sense of joy or peace feels like in an embodied way so that we can recommend to our friends that what they are looking for….we have found.  This is an essential piece to the Good News Jesus came to preach.

As we are continuing to experience the effects of the pandemic, we probably can better describe how fear shut off our brain…what anger feels like…what it does to our chest to feel overwhelmed… of intolerance; of sheer frustration.  These we know intimately…but this is not what Jesus had in mind when he said that he came so that we might live life to the fullest. This week we are beginning a new series to reintroduce the fruit of the spirit so that we can begin to shift away from these negative emotions and find a deeper connection to the Source of life… Our outside world may not change, but what we can change is our inside world.

Matthew 7:16  You will know them by their fruits.

Through neuroscience, we are coming to understand that the fruit of the spirit produces profound neuroscientific and physiological change in our bodies. (13)

1- neuroplasticity:  No matter how old you are, your brain still has the ability to make new connections and rewire to do something different. So there is no excuse my friends!!!  You can change until you are no longer with us in this world!

2- Hebb’s Law: Neurons that fire together wire together.  When we practice something, that practice strengthens the neural circuitry.  We can literally become more like Christ through practicing things that build allow love, joy, peace, to grow in our lives.  But it takes continued and sustained practice. 

Just because we believe in Jesus does not make us more loving people.  Just because we intellectually know that we are called to love, does not make us become more loving. We now have the understanding that we actually need to train our brain…to feel it in our bodies so that we can intimately know the truth that sets us free. And this is what contemplative practices have offered for centuries but that we are just now having the ability to understand how it works. These practices may seem small or individual or not of value because no one is looking or praising us for it….these are the things that affect change.

When the Christian Church Disciples of Christ began taking form on American soil, it met and was shaped by a culture that need to feel freedom from religious tradition. Our founders sought to restore and unify the church.  The restoration can be thought about in terms of what the church should not be doing which has to do with the church structure, creeds, not believing that people can read the bible and keeping people from the communion table. And restoration has to do with the things that our founders felt we should be doing which is getting back to being New Testament Christians and grounding all that we do in scripture.  The other hope was that all Christians could unify into one Christian Church which they felt would usher the return of Jesus.  The people here in America had hard lives making a way in this land and so they wanted a church that could show how Jesus offers simple and practical help for coping with a hard life.

I think that we have come back to this very spot here in America where our people are crying out for our religious communities to offer something that will help them cope with the hard lives that we lead. They want to experience peace and love. This is exciting for us because it is a place that the Christian Church Disciple’s of Christ thrived in the past.  What we must offer is something intellectually stimulating but that is grounded in the realities of life so that our faith has practical and profound affects in daily living.

This week, my daily practices were disrupted by covid. I found myself fearful and full of anxiety…fear and anxiety seemed to be more powerful than the actual symptoms of covid for our family. But what I learned is that despite the disruptions and the fear/anxiety, I could lean on years of daily practice.  I could remember to pause, find my breath, and let that feeling of peace and love that I have come to know so well flood my body. Then, I was able to trust the counsel of my doctors and my body to heal.

Something that is new for me that started to happen 18 months ago is kindness toward myself. One of the benefits of a sustained contemplative practice is that there comes a moment where your internal dialogue shifts from being critical, judgmental, and demanding to hearing a voice inside that is encouraging, uplifting, and gentle.  I remember sitting in meditation all those many months ago and when I finished my practice, I congratulated myself on committing to a daily self-care regimine.  This voice was very new to me and I wrote in my journal that a smile came to my face.  I have always been a cheerleader for other people whether I was teaching an aerobics class in the 90s or helping a friend keep her commitment to the next step in her wellness journey or when Peyton learned his first word in sign language at the age of 3.  It’s just in me to cheer people on, but I had never experienced being a cheerleader for myself. This week, I cheered my body on for mounting a response to the virus and slowly making its way towards health and healing.

Kristen Neff who is an associate professor in human development at the University of Texas and is a pioneer in the work of self-compassion writes that our culture emphasizes being kind to your friends, co workers and neighbors but not to ourselves. She defines self kindness as the ability to recognize when we are being harsh with ourselves, pause and shift to actively comforting ourselves.  In a study done on how the brain reacts to self criticism or compassion groups where asked to imagine a situation of failure like applying for jobs and getting a third rejection letter in the mail.  One group was asked to react in a critical way and the other group was asked to react with kindness.  What they found is that the group that reacted critically activated a part of the brain that detects errors and engages in problem solving. The other group who reacted with kindness activated the part of the brain associated with positive emotions and compassion. In conclusion, Neff writes, “instead of seeing ourselves as a problem to be fixed, self kindness allows us to see ourselves as valuable human beings who are worthy of care.” (49)

So, my challenge to you this week is to spend a few minutes everyday to get to know your interior world…your inner voice. Maybe some of you already know that voice and don’t want to hear it anymore often than you do….proceed gently with this practice, but know that your inner critic really wants the best for you even if the way in which it speaks is no longer useful for you today!

You can use Kristen Neff’s activity to guide your time this week:

1-take 5-10 min each day and just observe your inner dialogue. 

2-any time you notice a self-critical voice, make an active effort to soften that voice by thanking it for always keeping you safe and helping you to improve.  It may feel silly at first but this is practice!

3-reframe the observation made by your inner critic in a kind, friendly and positive way.  You may need to journal this one!!!  For me, I used to beat myself up if I did not perform to my standard of perfect. I would also speak very harshly to myself saying things like You blew it Amber no one will ever give you another opportunity.  Now, I assess the situation, thank my inner critic for wanting me to improve and then reframe it by saying, “I offered my best today. My best is not perfect and I will have another opportunity to try again.” 

Jesus was right in that it is the things done in secret that impact our lives the most..that either make life a living hell or allow us to experience a little bit of heaven on this earth.

Life of the Beloved: Where is the Sacred?

We have spent the past 6 weeks exploring themes from Henri Nouwen’s book Life of the Beloved. And now it is time for me to tell you the hard truth. Henri’s book was deemed a failure by Fred and his friends and he wondered if he should even publish the book. But there is a twist to this story…What is interesting is that Nouwen’s admission of failure was the opening the participants in my doctoral project needed.  At the initial meeting where I gathered everyone interested in participating in my project, I shared the story of Fred and Henri. Fred, a man who identified as a secular Jew commissioned his dear friend Henri a catholic priest to write a book about the spiritual life for his friends who were disconnected from any faith tradition. When Henri finished the book, he sent it to Fred and although Fred had many good things to say about the book, it was clear to Henri that he had not touched the hearts and minds of Fred and his friends. This story intrigued my participants because it leveled the playing field and created a need for dialogue.

When I began my journey with Henri Nouwen’s Life of the Beloved as the sacred text for my doctoral project, I imagined that I would gather yoga students who  were disconnected from any religious tradition. I hoped to recreate Nouwen’s intended audience and provide a safe space to dialogue about the spiritual life. But what I discovered was another group of people that Dr. Duane Bidwell calls Spiritually Fluid. Spiritually fluid people identify with 2 or more different religious traditions because of being raised in a home with more than 1 religious tradition represented or by choice or by experience.

What makes this group unique is that because they do not identify with only one religious tradition, this group is rarely included or invited to share their experience of the Divine. I met with a friend of mine months before the project to talk to her about participating and she replied that she would love to participate because and these are her words “I was attempting to include people that are usually excluded from religious conversation.”

Today, we conclude our teaching series following Henri Nouwen’s Life of the Beloved. During this season of Lent, we have followed the words that Nouwen suggested is the journey of the Beloved. And as Disciples of Christ, we are very familiar with these words because hear them every Sunday as we gather around the communion table. Nouwen says that as the Beloved we are Taken, Blessed, Broken & Given. Today, we arrive at The Living Beloved and Nouwen asks us one final question, “If Fred is right in saying that the sacred has disappeared from our world, then where and how can we rediscover the sacred and give it the central place in our lives?” (145-146)

So let us return to our sacred text to see if it can give us any clue about how to rediscover the sacred….

The story goes that Mary Magdalene came to the tomb and saw that it was empty so she ran to tell the disciples. I love how it talks about how Peter and an unnamed disciple raced each other to the tomb and the unnamed disciple got there first. This unnamed disciple did not dare go into the tomb first so he waited for Peter who was apparently not as fast a runner! Peter went inside and saw the wrappings that should have been on Jesus’ body were lying there and the towel that would have been on Jesus’ face was rolled up and in a different spot. The unnamed disciple then entered the tomb and the scripture says, “He saw and believed.”

While this is going on Mary Magdalene had made her way back to the tomb and is outside weeping. The sacred text says she saw two angels and has a conversation with them. But the text seems to imply that she didn’t really see them. Then the narrator tells us that Jesus appears and asks Mary why she is weeping. It says that Mary sees Jesus, but she didn’t really see him because she thought he was a gardener. Then Jesus said her name in a way that must have been very familiar, and immediately her eyes were cleansed, the stone on the tomb of her heart was rolled away and she saw Jesus. As any human would do, she clings to Jesus, but he tells her not to hold on to him, but instead to go and tell his brothers. So Mary runs to tell the disciples that she has seen Jesus. 

1) In this story there is a lot of activity that heralds the coming of someone important. You read that Mary and the disciples run to the tomb, Mary goes back to tell the disciples, and back to the tomb to weep. Along with all of this activity, we read that Mary and the Disciples See Things.

What touched the hearts and minds of the participants in my project was that the form of dialogue we employed to discuss Nouwen’s book helped them feel seen and heard. They described be seen as feeling connected to each other as human beings who are both blessed & broken while also celebrating the uniqueness of each person.

Let me explain through this story….My yoga teacher once told me that she wished we could all just appreciate our connectedness as human beings without being concerned about our different religious traditions. In her words, I heard a longing to move away from our natural tendency to divide and exclude. Which is something I really appreciate. At the same time, I felt something lacking in her statement. Upon reflection, I realized that her statement embraced our similarities while discounting our differences. If I am only seen as a human being, then I am not fully seen as Amber. I am fully seen when a person embraces what makes me unique: my physical appearance, my interests, my dislikes, my politics, my health, and even my religious tradition as it influences how I live my life.

Nouwen says to us that we must see ourselves as God sees us which is to understand that God calls us The beloved as a general term of endearment given to all living beings and as a particular love language unique to the individual. When we let the truth of our belovedness become enfleshed everything we think, say and do then our eyes will be open to see that the risen Christ is with us.

And so we read in our sacred text today that the stranger who appeared to Mary turned out to be the Christ who the Gospel of John said was here at the beginning of Creation. Out of a Christ-soaked world, Jesus came, put on flesh, and dwelled among us. Jesus suffered and died on the cross and was raised to new life that he might reveal himself again in a Christ-soaked world.

Let us return to Nouwen’s question “If Fred is right that the Sacred has disappeared from our world Where and how can we rediscover the sacred?” It is the journey of becoming the Beloved and of daily saying yes to the one who first loved us…reveals that the sacred has not disappeared but is everywhere if you have eyes to see.

Richard Rohr Writes, “People of the Light will quite simply reveal a high level of seeing, both in depth and in breadth, which allows them to include more and more and exclude less and less.” (Universal Christ, 178)

2) In our sacred text, Mary hears a familiar voice and turns to see that it isn’t a gardener, but it is Jesus who is beside her. So she clings to Jesus, but he tells her that she must not. Instead he redirects her to go and tell the disciples what she has seen.

A very human Mary Magdalene clings to the shape and form of Jesus, but Jesus gently reminds her that she can’t cling to him being here on this earth like a scarce and rare commodity, but that now as the risen Christ there is an abundance of Christ to go around.

During a time of inner turmoil, Nouwen had the pleasure of meeting Mother Teresa of Calcutta. In a conversation with her, he began pouring out all his problems and difficulties. When he had finished Mother Teresa looked at him and said, “Well, when you spend one hour a day adoring your Lord and never do anything which you know is wrong…you will be fine!” He said that her words were like a flash of lightening in his darkness. He realized that he had been clinging to the Jesus of his youth which had to die, so that a new awareness of God’s covenant that includes everyone could live!. It was only Then that he was able to see the greatness of God everywhere. (Spiritual Direction, pg 5, 20, 48) A friend of mine said the same thing that he had to leave the Jesus of religion/church in order to find the risen Jesus.

And don’t we see the resurrection story playing over and over again. I see it in my relationship with my spouse and our children. I know for me, Chad and my first 2 years of marriage was terrible. Looking back, I can see that pieces of me had to die so that something new…the oneness we now experience could live!  I can look back and see this story playing out when I was a new mom.  There were days that I wept in the middle of the kitchen floor while holding 2 crying babies because I felt totally lost, exhausted, and utterly useless…but I wiped my tears, looked into my children’s eyes and saw that as controlling/perfectionist parts of me were dying, I was a part of new life taking shape and form right in front of me!

See the resurrection narrative in Nouwen’s writing. Nouwen’s failure at touching the hearts and minds of Fred and his friends gave new life to the people in my project. Resurrection is suffering transformed.

The season of Lent asks us to take a hard look at the ways we are taken, blessed, broken, and given, but lent is not what defines a Christian community. For We are an Easter people. We can see the suffering of Mother Earth and the agony of human suffering and know that when something dies, it means something is being reborn. It doesn’t justify us doing nothing to prevent unjust suffering or aid in the healing of our planet…. For we are called to do that daily!

Living as the Beloved is to see God at work in our mess.  It is to have new ears to hear the Good news being spoken here and there and everywhere that the wind blows. It is for our minds to dwell on beauty and goodness and all the many expressions of love. It is to be crying like Mary and to still have a Alleluhia on our tongues.

Nouwen asked, “Where is the sacred?” My spiritually fluid friend said it best, “It is when I smell the coffee brewing in the morning and it is when I play with my dog.” The sacred isn’t gone…It has risen to new life and can be found everywhere if our eyes are cleansed and the stone on the tomb of our heart is rolled away.

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